Mating in Captivity - Esther Perel
I found Mating in Captivity to be very insightful and I identified with much of what the author shared via case studies. I was, however quite disappointed when what I was waiting to hear about was never addressed. I am a survivor of prolonged childhood sexual abuse. And if the statistics are true, nearly 1/3 of the population is as well. This plays a huge role in the sexual landscape of my marriage and I do not have any question that it plays a big part in many other marriages. Perel barely even mentioned marriage partners who were sexually abused. I think maybe a total of five minutes was given to this topic. I cannot understand how this issue could be almost ignored in this book. Additionally, in the chapter towards the end of the book that discusses monogamy Perel only mentions sexually open but emotionally closed marriages as an alternative. She does not once make reference to polyamory. I suppose that is simply too many topics to take on. But when one is examining the multiple facets of the human mind and behavior when it comes to intimacy I am shocked that this could be left out. Despite what was missing, the book was a good read and I would recommend it to anyone who is wanting to re-examine and re-approach their sexual life with their partner.